This week was a tough week for us as a family. We gathered together on Wednesday to say good bye to my oldest cousin. It’s hard to believe that he’s gone and it seems like only yesterday that all of us cousins were clamoring to get into his jeep and have a ride. As you can understand I was sad. My son couldn’t really understand that.
I kept things fun for Xavier as the week passed. We went to our activities and did our usual fun things at home. When the time came however to walk into the hall and begin the memorial service he sensed that something was wrong. As I held him in my arms trying to get his coat off, he put his hand on my cheek and said ‘What’s wrong?’. Then he proceeded to try and entertain the crowd to perk everyone up.
He told everyone he met to ‘Smile’ and then lunged for my brother and sister. He was silly and goofy and we tried to keep him quiet. He was doing alright until the middle of service when he thought the service was boring and decided to recite one of his favorite books.
That’s right. Rather inappropriately in the middle of the memorial service my son began reciting Blue Hat, Green Hat by Sandra Boynton. He’s been working very hard to read it himself and I guess he felt it was time for a story.
Just months ago this wouldn’t have happened. He hasn’t been overly verbal but has been talking like crazy lately. I’m glad he’s shown a great deal of awareness regarding feelings and has concern and care for those who are wounded. The fact that he loves to entertain and make others happy is fantastic. All of these things are great qualities just not in the middle of a memorial service.
Even if it was inappropriate I do thank my son for showing us how to live life to the fullest and giving us joy during a very sad time. I think perhaps these moments come from God. A moment of levity or laughter in a sad time shows that life does continue. A smile from a child shows that there are good things to come.